He says that we met inside the house and after that we stayed outside just me and him talking the entire time and we had a fun time just talking and he today tells me that from that night on he had to have me that he had to make me his, well, he didn’t quite make that happen.I guess I just wasn’t interested at the time or it just wasn’t time for us to happen yet you know.I had heard them all talk about him here and there telling stories that they shared with him, but still I never gave it a second thought.His best friend kept telling Bubba about me and what we were doing, what I was doing, how I was doing and this started and December (I found all this a lot later) and then that Feb we were all over at Rachel’s place having game night and one of his friends was talking to Bubba on the phone and then his friend called me over there and said that there was someone on the phone that wanted to talk to me so I was like ok. It was the first time I had talked to him in years!But you have to take note that my junior and senior year was a whirlwind kind of a blur but a GREAT blur if you catch my drift hahaha.
These little slices of normality and tenderness can mean the world. So when it comes to your feelings, make it easy for him. For my first birthday we were a couple, my boyfriend gave me a set of his dogtags. And when people ask me about them, I puff out my chest and tell them the truth. But be warned: it’s not going to be anything like a “normal” relationship. two good girlfriends of mine and myself went to this guy’s house to pick up one of our other girlfriends to go out that night.
Well anyways about 41/2-5 years go by and my best friend Rachel and I started hanging out with people that we hung out with back in the day and at this time I’m 21 yrs old and able to actually go out like really go out u know.
So the people we started hanging out with and do stuff with were still older than us and they were all really good friends with Bubba they kept in touch with him and what not.
Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
What follows is some humble advice on how to cope with being the significant other of soldier. If you and your soldier are ready to enter a relationship, make sure you know exactly what you’re getting into. Both gave me a wealth of knowledge I otherwise would not have had. The time he has for you will be dictated by someone else entirely. Concentrate on these, and appreciate the time he’s allowed to have with you. And when he does let me in on the other things, I try to listen and not pry. Men who are stationed together are often closer than brothers. Don’t cling to your man like a backpack, and don’t emasculate him in front of his guys.